Daughter #1 makes fabulous costumes like this Mummy for my grand daughter.
I hate Halloween. There I’ve said it. I’ve come clean. No more pretending. Putting on a false face. Wearing a polite mask while the rest of the world gushes fanatically about how killer Halloween is. I think it stinks. Truth is, I’ve always hated it. I can’t think of one happy Halloween memory. It terrifies me. Even as an adult. I’m intimidated by complete strangers dressed in costumes and wearing masks or bloody makeup knocking on my door. Even the small ones make my bones chill. Nothing more sinister than a teensy weensy spider. Some would say that’s kind of the point. But not for me. Before you call me the Grinch or Ebenezer Scrooge of Halloween, in my defense, there are some spellbinding reasons I feel this way.
Little back story. I grew up in a small town in Northwestern Ontario. Winters were cold there. Very cold. And very long. Bleak at times. Some years the first snowfall came as early as October. And the last one could come in May. May, for God’s sake. In between the snow was relentless. Some years it felt like perpetual winter. Perhaps that was just the teenage me in a bad mood. But still.
This foul, malicious mean-spirited weather played a major roll in shaping, if not permanently blackening, my recollections of October 31. I don’t even know what to call this thing. Is it a holiday? An event? A special occasion? A celebration? Festival? For me, it’s none of these. But it truly was, and always will be, a night of horrors.
Here’s the blood-curdling, hair-raising reasons why.
The Halloween before Ma died my youngest was everyone’s little princess.
1. I was a shy kid. This made knocking on the doors of strangers difficult at best. Okay, I’ll admit these were all neighbors’ doors. But every year on October 31 they felt like complete strangers to me. Creepy visitors from another planet. They just seemed weird. Not like themselves. I particularly feared the ones who invited me in to retrieve my treat. Then asked me to sing or something equally humiliating. This was painful. It scared the Bejesus of out me. You’d think they were handing out million dollar bills instead of a lousy peanut in a shell.
2. I didn’t have any siblings close in age to trick or treat with. This meant The Old Man or my older sister, who was practically an adult, had to take me from door to door. It was lonely. And sad. I felt like an outcast. A loser. There’s nothing more pitiful than a lone trick or treater. Not nearly as dreamy as the Lone Ranger. Not even close. This also brought out the green-eyed monster in me. I envied the rowdy screeching C kids from across the street who paraded around the neighborhood in their clannish cluster of clever costumes. Their mother was off her rocker at the best of times but this zaniness came in handy when constructing costumes. She was an artistic genius with an imagination that knew no bounds. Her costume making skills were unrivaled. Having said that, it might not have taken a whole lot of talent to out-costume the rest of us.
The yellow crayon costume. I was proud of this one at the time.
3. The options for costumes were limited. Nothing like it is today. You couldn’t go to Walmart and buy one. Nor could you order one online. There weren’t any pop-up costume stores. There were no tickle trunks. None of that. You were left to your own devices. Make do with what you had on hand. At our disposal at 204, and for most families of the era, were sheets with holes, black shoe polish, raggedy old clothes, chiffon scarfs, square bandanas, bed pillows, worn-out cotton house dresses, broken brooms, fake cowboy hats and silver cap guns from Kresge’s or Woolworth’s. This mundane collection of household odds and sods gave birth to the likes of Aunt Jemima, Roy Rogers, various uninspired ghosts, bums, witches and lesser famous cowboys, the odd pirate, gangster or something vaguely resembling an animal. That was it.
4. I was often sick on October 31. Fever. Cold. Body aches. Runny nose. Headache. Stomach flu. The shakes. Just overall malaise. The change of season brought with it the usual run of childhood illnesses. Mine seemed to start right around Halloween. I would drag myself from door to door in my Aunt Jemima costume, scarlet freezing hands clutching the white pillowcase I used to collect my treats, uncomfortable wooly winter jacket left open because it wouldn’t close around my stuffed-pillow belly, the ground slushy, slippery, uneven and hazardous under my brown rubber galoshes, snot and tears pouring down my black polished face as the wind fought for possession of my sack of treats. It was abysmal.
5. Most of the candy was as ghastly as the night. Just downright disappointing too. Molasses kisses. Tons of them. Everyone, Ma and The Old Man included, doled these out by the fistfuls. They were cheap and adults liked them. There was an abundance of the regular old suckers as well, mostly grape, which I hated. Just plain bad luck that I ended up with so many in this loathsome flavor. There was the odd BB Bat, which I loved, and Double Bubble which I could have eaten by the carload, and one or two Tootsie Rolls, which I seriously considered trading The Old Man for. There were also apples and weird nuts. Nobody ate those even back then. Razor blades and poison could be hidden in anything. Besides as far as I was concerned, healthy treats had no place in my pillowcase. After all, this was Halloween. The one time in the year where you could stuff your face silly with sugar. Even if it was in the form of molasses.
This Casper costume was a colossal fail.
So there you have it. I traipsed around the neighborhood with The Old Man, frozen, sick, exhausted, pretending to be the woman on a pancake box, terrified and lonely. Only to get home to 204 to find a pillowcase full of disappointing and lackluster treats. Of course, this did not deter me from eating every last morsel by the middle of November.
I stopped this torture when I was 11 or 12, and no longer “went out.” Back then you didn’t wear your costumes to school, nor were Halloween parties widely embraced. I was off the hook. Also, decorating your house was unheard of. If there was a carved pumpkin on the front steps you were possibly over-the-top and an extreme Halloween celebrator. It wasn’t the festive occasion that it is today. Not by a long shot. At best, it was a blip in the radar on the way to the best holiday of the year. Christmas.
There was a blissful decade where I avoided all things Halloween. And then I had children. Don’t misunderstand, it still wasn’t something I embraced, nor got enthusiastic about. My costume making skills hadn’t improved with adulthood either. My imagination in this area appears to be stunted or nonexistent. I always liked the notion of a tickle trunk but just never got around to creating one. I was a terrible costume maker despite my Seamstress chops. I could make an evening gown for Ma but for the life of me I couldn’t stitch together anything interesting for my kids to wear for Halloween. No fierce animals. Nor mythical creatures. Nothing regal nor royal. Otherworldly. Nor conjured. Nothing evil. Nor good. I was hopeless.
My oldest daughter is a living doll in this costume.
Over the years I made two feeble attempts at fashioning a costume from scratch. There was the yellow crayon I made for my oldest daughter. She graciously wore this felt tube a couple of years in a row. The first time it was a full length crayon. Ankles to neck. The last time it was more mini. Knees to neck. The other atrocity was the Casper the Ghost costume I made for my youngest daughter. The head piece was a complete fail. It looked more like a brain on steroids than poor Casper’s head. Thank God she was only three at the time and unaware that the costume was a hot mess. And that her mother was responsible.
This brings me to reason number 6 for finding Halloween horrifying. This has nothing to do with the child from 204. This is all about the adult me. I feel inadequate. Ineffective. Incapable of making a good costume. A lifetime sewer and I can’t stitch together a single idea that works. I have been a complete and utter failure at all things Halloween.
Despite all of my Halloween trauma and agony, it appears I have not passed any of this anxiety and distress onto my three children. Well, perhaps a little onto my youngest daughter. Maybe this has something to do with the Casper costume. Let’s just say, she’s seen pictures and leave it at that. They fully embrace the holiday-occasion-event-spectacle. They dress up. They’re gifted costume devisers, especially my oldest daughter. They have fun. They hoot and holler. They go boldly into the spooky night. Unlike their mother who cowers in the corner waiting for the night to be over.
My son as somebody from Star Trek.
Footnote to this story. A few years ago I wore a costume to work for Halloween. Some of my colleagues were dressing up for the day and I wanted to be included in this group of “fun” folks. I went as Cindy Crawford. The costume was simple and understated. I drew a mole just above the outer edge of my lip. It was identical to Cindy’s. That was it. The rest of the costume looked like I always looked on Halloween. Dull. But I did have a great time that day getting my colleagues to guess who I was. Best costume ever.
I also love molasses kisses now. So there’s hope.